Self-Analysis: Stop Lying to Yourself First

Jan 07, 2026 - By Ashutosh Roy HealthSociety

Key Takeaway

Self-Analysis may cast a magical spell on one’s life and enable one with the power to grow everyday.  It enables one with the power of identification and elimination of triggering emotions or events.

Self-Analysis: Start Growing

Self-analysis. It is a small hyphenated word. It has only two parts. However, the meaning is deep and powerful. There is no intention to go into any spiritual interpretation.

Self-Analysis Helps You Grow Every Day

Instead, we will stay focused on practical life. Therefore, the discussion will remain limited to how self-analysis applies to our personal lives. As a result, we will also see how this practice works and what outcomes it produces.

We all make mistakes, and we do so every day. However, do we truly examine our daily actions? Do our thoughts, emotions, and behavior move in the right direction?

Why We React Without Thinking

Are we really aware of our strengths and weaknesses? Moreover, do we clearly understand what makes us angry or what pushes us into sadness? In reality, most of our actions come from instant reactions, not careful thinking.

Because these are not financial matters, we often become careless. It is not like buying a flat or investing in mutual funds, where we naturally stay alert and cautious.

For example, imagine this situation. Today, a friend behaved in a way that made me very angry, and I reacted by abusing him. However, we rarely stop to ask why the person behaved that way. We also do not ask ourselves whether we could have handled the situation without anger. If we start thinking like this, we will realize something important.

Overcoming Ego in Self-Analysis

We might have reacted in a better and calmer way. The first obstacle in this process is our ego. We almost never take an active step to analyze our own weaknesses. Instead, we are more comfortable finding faults in others.

As a result, we avoid facing the hard reality of our own flaws. Therefore, we often end up running away—not just from the truth, but from ourselves.

Each of us lives under the influence of our emotions, beliefs, and motivations. In other words, if I believe that my friend has always been selfish, that belief rarely changes—even if the world changes.

There may have been a reason behind this belief in the past. However, today the situation might be different. It is also possible that my belief was wrong from the beginning. Yet, we hardly ever try to think this way. Because of our ego, we resist change.

The Cost of Overthinking and Blame

Adding flexibility to our thinking feels extremely difficult, almost impossible. For example, if someone of my same rank suddenly gets a promotion and I do not, we quickly form a belief. We assume that the person got promoted by pleasing seniors.

We do not try to evaluate their work or skills. Instead, when we fall behind, we start blaming our luck. Luck will never stand in front of us to argue or defend itself. In reality, looking down on others becomes our natural habit.

As a result, we escape from facing our own weaknesses or the real reasons behind our failure.

Thus, we find false comfort in a strange illusion of self-pride.

A Simple 10-Minute Self-Analysis Habit

Self-analysis is not a difficult task at all. With a little effort, anyone can do it easily. For example, if we spend just 10 minutes every night before sleep thinking about what we did throughout the day, it is not a hard exercise.

Once this habit develops, the first question we should ask is simple: Why did I act that way? Next, we should reflect on whether we could have handled the situation better. Maybe we abused or scolded a subordinate.

However, if we pause and think, we may realize that the mistake was not intentional. Therefore, it is better to search for the real reason behind the error. If needed, we can even call that person the next day and ask calmly.

It is also possible that my anger was completely unjustified. But one thing is essential. Before going to sleep, we must at least perform this small act of self-analysis.

Identify Your Emotional Triggers

If we practice this every day, we will start noticing something important. We will see that a specific behavior or situation triggers us the most. Gradually, we must identify this pattern ourselves. Once the pattern becomes clear, real improvement begins. Then, we can think ahead. If a similar situation happens in the future, how can we handle it better?

As a result, we gain more control over our reactions. Instead of reacting emotionally, we respond with awareness and balance.

How Self-Analysis Improves Judgment

However, just as self-analysis is often controlled by our ego, another problem troubles us deeply. That problem is an endless loop of thoughts. In other words, we become so emotionally attached to one incident that we start overthinking.

While trying to judge others’ situations, we trap ourselves in a mental loop. As a result, the true purpose of self-analysis gets lost.

Therefore, we must stay focused only on ourselves.

Here, I and myself is the priority. Others come later. First, I should think about transforming myself into a better version. To do that, we must break free from blaming others, their faults, or even fate. Only then can self-analysis work in the way it is meant to.

From Blame to Growth: The Real Shift

When we practice this habit properly, something important happens. Gradually, we develop a sharper and more balanced judgment. With this clarity, we can set clear objectives for ourselves. From that point onward, improvement becomes inevitable. Self-Analysis is a part of meditation.

We have got examples of many celebrities starting from Oprah Winfrey, Jennifer Aniston, Miley Cyrus to Hugh Jackman, Marilyn Monroe who used to practice meditation.

Turn Daily Reflection into Real Progress

In conclusion, I have no intention of bringing any religious or spiritual ideas into this discussion. I simply want to show that instead of talking about a “better tomorrow”, self-analysis can become a practical path to inner peace and personal growth. Why not to start today?