Sex – the starting point of spiritualism
“Happiness is spiritual, born of Truth and Love. It is unselfish; therefore it cannot exist alone, but requires all mankind to share it.” says Mary Baker Eddy.
Lets us start with the term sex. Sex is a natural phenomenon of every living creature.
The natural attraction to the opposite sex follows the magnetic laws, whereby a north pole always feels an indomitable attraction for the South Pole.
The extreme satisfaction lies in intercourse where the women orgasm is fulfilled by the ejaculation of a man. According to Andrea Dworkin, “You think intercourse is a private act; it’s not, it’s a social act. Men are sexually predatory in life; and women are sexually manipulative. When two individuals come together and leave their gender outside the bedroom door, then they make love.” But tell me honestly, how many can really leave the gender outside? The obvious result is a complete dissatisfaction or even a partial one.
The ever-ending innovative mindset of human beings and an ever-increasing emergent frustration have led to a lot of misuse and perversion in several stages of civilization.
Even at times it has become by force, where it looses its enormous joy and makes it bitter like Joanita Kyakuwa describes, “He had sexual intercourse with me by force. I don’t remember how long it took, but he did not use a condom. I was crying and I felt betrayed.”
The prosecution has been reformed and legalized in various countries and even modern civilization witnesses male striptease. Nights Clubs have started pulling a lot of crowds by displaying jacuzzi dancing girls even in small cities.
However, the chaotic world gives an elude picture to the young generation and the free globalization at such an early stage of life misleads the objectivity and opens the dark side of sex, where sex is treated as compulsion/ on sale commodity instead of an emotion driven physical relationship, where both the male and the female achieves utmost satisfaction after the closest interaction.
People have started confusing between the state of two extreme pleasures, as stated by Mark Twain, “One of life’s most over-valued pleasures is sexual intercourse; of one of life’s least appreciated pleasures in defecation.” However, lets try to find out the ideal satisfaction, you get out of a proper intercourse, where both start floating in the air and the exertion leads to a sound sleep with a romantic body and mind. Lets keep apart the kiss competition, rather let us focus at a kiss, which comes spontaneously among the newly married couples. Let’s concentrate more on true love, where sex may be an integral part, but not the only one. Let’s try to evaluate the power of love.
Now when we talk of spiritualism, some people think that sex is an untouchable in the spiritual realm. We not only defer, but also we do feel that this is just a foolish notion of the ignorant people.
We feel sex and spiritualism co-exist; even we want to say one really complements the other. We believe sex is an integral part of love life, where there is a true intermingling of body and soul in true sense.
We must not forget, “Love in its essence is spiritual fire” and that’s the sole reason of treating the relationship between a husband and wife to be sacred all over the world in all civilizations. The reincarnation theory believes that the relationship continues even after the physical death of this term.
Here we want to furnish a famous quote of St. Francis de, “Marital intercourse is certainly holy, lawful and praiseworthy in itself and profitable to society, yet in certain circumstances it can prove dangerous, as when through excess the soul is made sick with venial sin, or through the violation and perversion of its primary end, killed by mortal sin; such perversion, detestable in proportion to its departure from the true order, being always mortal sin, for it is never lawful to exclude the primary end of marriage which is the procreation of children.”
Everybody knows that fire gets created only when two particles get engaged in friction. We all know the energy level of fire, which can destroy any and every element of this mortal world.
We also know that a new baby is born out of intercourse, which also demands a lot of energy. As per the rule of the law, an energy can only lead to another dynamic energy, may be in a much more magnified form.
We have seen the devastating effect of Tsunami, which has been also created through the friction of two iron plates beneath the sea. Science has proved that the combination of two dynamic energies can create an impulsive force, which may become 100 times more powerful than the constituent energy particles. We all know the subdued energy level of Uranium. If we carefully look back, we will surely find a lot of evidences, wherein friction has led to creativity. Most importantly Franklin D. Roosevelt observes rightly, “Physical strength can never permanently withstand the impact of spiritual force.”
If anybody is interested in the spiritual world, he will find that when your internal energy level starts floating, there is an obvious friction at every stage to reach the top, the Brahma Chakra.
Any spiritual climb entails a calm mind that you also achieve from a balanced sexual interaction, where all bubbles of excitement find a final rest, which is really calm and quiet.
If you compare with the spiritual world, most distractions occur at an early stage, where your excitements tries their best to divulge you from your ultimate aim and finally you are set to achieve your goal only when the bubbles find a calm period. Anais Nin says, “Electric flesh-arrows… traversing the body. A rainbow of color strikes the eyelids. A foam of music falls over the ears. It is the gong of the orgasm.”
The spiritual gurus pronounce the same to express the romantic state of body and mind during the spiritual growth.
Anybody, who has been engaged in intercourse, he can notice the initial distraction and diversions even in the beginning. A lot of nurture may be required for a focused intercourse. Alexander Pope describes it nicely, “Speed the soft intercourse from soul to soul,/ And waft a sigh from Indus to the Pole.” When the inner energy level scales upwards then your spinal cord also aches at certain points. With passing time, the frequency of having intercourse increases, to attain more satisfaction. Once the energy level starts flowing, you also feel an inner urge to speed it up.
With ejaculation during intercourse you are at complete rest in body and mind; similarly the growth of the inner energy to a level gives you also the peace of mind, as if you have reached your target.
If we talk of diversions in both the world, mythology describes Maneka and Urvashi at work as distracting catalysts for the meditating Lords.
Its also equally tough to restrain yourself from the cabaret girls, when she starts opening up like the shedding petals of a flower at full bloom which works as a strong ingredient to distract one from a normal healthy sex life.
Joseph Campbell finds an unique relationship between marriage and spiritual world, “When people get married because they think it’s a long-time love affair, they’ll be divorced very soon, because all love affairs end in disappointment. But marriage is a recognition of a spiritual identity.” As sex in a healthy marriage relationship becomes endless (excluding biological constraints), the dreaded interest to achieve the final stage also becomes endless, when you try to come back with a solace, “Ok, next time”.
Remember, neither you can leave a half-done sex, or spiritual attainment.
It will be as if, “He was successful in removing her clothes but he was unsuccessful in his attempt to have sexual intercourse with her, and then he told her to run away, so she did.” – Bruce Williamson.
One point has to be kept in mind that usage of artificial elements in both the cases reduces the magnitude of pleasure.
During the spiritual development, if one takes artificial help like a black box or iron chair, the result can be even a catastrophe. The similar way Kim Miller cites an example, “When condoms were used at first intercourse, the adolescent was 20 times more likely to use condoms at their next intercourse and continually through their sexual experiences.”
Don’t you believe in spirituality? Answer this simple question. “Who has ever seen an idea? Who has ever seen love? Who has ever seen faith?” I will make it simpler for you. The answer is, “The real things in the world are the invisible spiritual realities”.
Lets try to furnish a highly similar behavior. Scientists have agreed that kiss works a stress reliever, so as meditation. It is needless to mention that kiss is a very close step in the pre-sexual stage and meditation is the first step towards spiritualization – which is a widely accepted norm.
We don’t have any intention of raising a debate. Rather we want to draw certain analogies to prove that spiritual growth and sexual relationship – both converge at one level, which is peace of body of mind and both of them follows the basic laws – friction leads to creativity. We want to reiterate Mark Twain, “Of the delights of this world man cares most for sexual intercourse, yet he has left it out of his heaven.”
We will conclude with a famous quote of Saint Augustine, “God does not give heed to the ambitiousness of our prayers, because he is always ready to give to us his light, not a visible light but an intellectual and spiritual one; but we are not always ready to receive it when we turn aside and down to other”
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